I was thinking today how many people live their lives making “safe and smart” decisions because they have been taught their whole lives to play it safe. That they can never truly let go and enjoy something. For example, if you really want an orange car but the white one will have a better resale value, you are taught and pressured to make the smart choice and go with the white car. Ok, great, you saved yourself $300- $500 sometime in the future. How does this serve you now? Are you going to experience joy when you look at your new car? Or will you have regret and quietly think and wish it was orange?
Or paint your house walls red? The reasonable boring adult will tell you that red is a bad choice because it will be difficult to repaint to white again. It’s true. But. In the mean time you are planning to live here so you deserve to have whichever color walls make you happy. You will deal with the repainting later because it’s really not that big of a deal, and having a homey and happy place to live is worth that future “sacrifice”.
Which serves you most in the now? We as society are programmed to think and care for the future to a degree that it’s robbing us of a joyful present. There is a balance to be found, because giving into every whim isn’t reasonable either, but I get the impression that our scales are far tipped into another direction. You can’t go on living your life playing it safe and wise the whole time. Make that choice, go with your heart, experience joy from your decision and let go of social/family pressure to make the “adult” decision. Adult does not have to equal boring or plain. But clearly, the definition of adult somehow seems to imply those words as well.
So go with your heart, allow yourself to be happy, and live in the moment while still being aware of your decisions affecting the future. This balance isn’t that difficult to find.