Sometimes in life we have to make calls that aren’t easy for us or for those who are affected by them. Its not easy to make a stand for something you whole-heartedly believe it, and understand that making the tough decision is ultimately in your best interested and in that person’s best interest. That decision is tough because the first and immediate reaction is pain, hurt, stress and separation. The positive intention behind that action is the catalyst for change. It is with the hope that the intention will come to the forth front and shine in all its might, and will make that pain and stress disappear in time. In many cases people get stuck in the “hurt, pain” phase and never make it through to the positive intention; and that is the most painful to see.
We had to let a very good employee go. He has a world of potential in him, but he has some serious growing up to do for now, and during that time he has to be without us tying him down. Some transitions can’t take place while some enabling cords are attached. It’s literally a visual of unplugging the safety cord and seeing if the person flies or fails. It’s terrifying when you find yourself in the position of the one who has to cut the cord, or when you have your cord cut. My heart is literally aching for this guy. I hope he finds his path, finds his way, because if he does – beautiful things will happen in his life. I see it for him, my husband sees it for him.. but he himself is blinded. How terrifying it must be, and how painful it must be to be in the dark place, to have the cord cut..and to not believe that you can fly. Truly sending him the best energies possible to open his eyes and spread his wings.
This was a first for us to have to be put in the position to cut the cord. Knowing from our perspective that it’s the best possible resolution to problem, that it will serve him the highest good if he takes the opportunity to see it as such himself, but also knowing that by making this decision we are putting him in a place where he absolutely must take responsibility for himself. Even knowing that, its hard not to feel some responsibility for whatever may happen next.
From the perspective of “outside looking in” its not that difficult to identify the patterns that emerge in someone else’s life. Self sabotage is a difficult issue to work through as long as one remains unaware that this is indeed is what’s happening. Beginning to do that kind of work is a huge undertaking even for someone who is ready to face their own demons. For situations where life tells you its time to get your stuff together, but you haven’t mentally prepared for it.. its even tougher. Its like watching someone in the water, knowing they have to swim to shore on their own, but fighting every urge to throw them a life vest… its unnatural, but ultimately allows that person to get a grip …or sink. 😦
The other difficult part is knowing that I can help this person talk through some stuff, help them see things for themselves and get them started on some of their shadow work… but also knowing that offering my help is going to be yet another crutch, and if that person knows what they need to make their life better they will find someone on their own, or they will learn how to work through this stuff on their own.
On that note, love and light to you during this Mercury in Retrograde!